KPFA Radio with Poetry Flash and Mrs. Dalloway's Books presents   Tenderness: a KPFA Valentine Evening with Maxine Hong Kingston and two profoundly beautiful films by Haydn Reiss (featuring poets William Stafford, Robert Bly, Maxine Hong Kingston, Alice Walker, Naomi Shihab Nye, Coleman Barks, W.S. Merwin, Michael Meade and Kim Stafford).Plus worthy nibbles.    Sunday, February 14, 7 PM The Hillside Club 2286 Cedar Street Berkeley  $10 advance tickets at Pegasus Books, Pendragon, Mrs Dalloway's or brownpapertickets.com :: 800-838-3006 ($12 door, $6 HC members)     Filmmaker Haydn Reiss (Rumi: Poet of the Heart) will be on hand to present the East Bay Premiere of "Every War Has Two Losers" - A Poet's Meditation on Peace, based on the Journals of National Book Award Winner William Stafford, voiced by Peter Coyote, with narration by Linda Hunt, and music by John Gorka (www.everywar.com) & "William Stafford & Robert Bly: A Literary Friendship" This extraordinary hour-long film documents the intimate friendship between two of America's greatest poets, both National Book Award winners and peace activists - William Stafford and Robert Bly. Before his death in 1993 Stafford, a uniquely eloquent conscientious objector during WW 11, published 65 books of poetry and prose, and won the Western States Lifetime Achievement Award. Robert Bly has already given us thirty books of his poems, prose and translations from many languages. The author of Iron John, co-founder of American Writers Against the Vietnam War, leader of the Mythopoetic Men's Movement, and a popular teacher at the annual Great Mother Conferences, Bly has long provided a desperately needed spiritual depth to contemporary American poetry.   In documenting the creative friendship of Bly and Stafford, and then following it with this new film on younger writers' responses to Stafford, Haydn Reiss has crafted two visionary testaments to the sacred power of peace. KPFA Radio was founded 60 years specifically to promote peace.   Maxine Hong Kingston, author of Woman Warrior, Tripmaster Monkey, China Men, To Be the Poet, The Fifth Book of Peace, and editor of the recent Veterans of War, Veterans of Peace has been the recipient of most major national literary awards as well as the 1997 National Humanities Medal presented to her by President Clinton. In 2003 she was arrested in Washington DC during a protest against the war in Iraq.